I decided to start this blog because ever since we got engaged, things have gone into roller coaster mode. I want to be able to share with you all the exciting and at-times arduous process of getting to the chuppah intact & still madly in love.
Let's start from the beginning. We got engaged on March 15 (the ides of march...) in Killington, VT. For those of you who know us, you know that we are winter sports enthusiasts. I am a snowboard instructor at Killington and B would come up to visit occasionally. On this particular visit, we decided to snowshoe up Pico Mountain at night and snowboard down. We packed up our gear, ate dinner at Charity's, a nearby restaurant, and began our trek. We had done this several times during the day, but never at night. Shortly after we began, we quickly discovered that the snow conditions were not great. We made it up about halfway and decided that we had enough. So we started to take off our packs and get ready to snowboard down. I was having trouble getting my snowshoe off, so he went behind me to help. He wasn't being very helpful and I couldn't figure out why, until I turned around and there he was, down on one knee with the ring!
Since we hadn't made it very far up, we figured it wouldn't take us very long to get down. I, of course, couldn't wait to call everyone & share the news! But alas, the snow conditions had made the trip down a long and slightly dangerous one. We finally made it down, ran to the car (so as not to get caught by the cops) and started making all the phone calls.
Within 24 hours I had already been overwhelmed with advice and tasks to be done immediately...I can make a website for you; did you make an onlysimchas page yet?; you need to call so-and-so; did you pick a date? etc.
Upon arriving home, the overwhelming sensation only escalated. We knew we would need to sit down & talk about logistics, but we weren't ready for that yet. We wanted to bask in the recently engaged glow for a little while longer. So much for that idea. Shortly after we sat down for dinner, the questions started pouring in. When do you want to get married? Do you want an engagement party? What are you going to do for money? Are you getting a job? These were things that we would figure out all in good time. But my parents are not laid-back people and so we had to start planning nearly immediately. Needless to say, our ideas for our wedding were virtually nixed immediately. I had dreamt about a March wedding in VT on top of a mountain. After the ceremony, anybody who so desired could join us in a celebratory snowboard/ski/sled run down the mountain. I knew this was far-fetched, but hey, a girl can dream. This idea was discussed for all of 60 seconds before I realized it would never become a reality. So we caved and agreed to have the wedding closer to home in March, so I would at least still get my winter wedding.
A few weeks later, I found out that I was accepted into Vermont Law School's Master's program. I was ecstatic! However, I knew that this meant plans would change...again. Since I will graduate in August, we decided to push the wedding back to Oct/Nov 2011. Ok, this wasn't so bad, it's only a few more months, and Autumn can be pretty, I guess. We started to plan. Just when we thought we were all set, we strapped in for another ride on the roller coaster. As some of you know, B is planning on attending Naturopathic Medical School. That's a lot of money. Our parents will support us somewhat, but in the end, we decided that it would be best for our financial future if we pushed the wedding back a little longer. So we decided on Feb/March 2012. Yes, that's 2 years away. But, we've waited this long, we can wait a little longer. If it means a little more financial security, then that's what we'll do.
So this is where we stand for now--either Feb 26 or March 4 2012. Of course, knowing us, this could easily change again. But we're about 90% sure that this is as far as we're pushing it back. Tons of other stuff has happened, but this post is long enough. I look forward to keeping you all in the loop of the roller coaster that is our lives. Until next time...
Peace out
Your parents sound JUST like my mother.
ReplyDeleteMy bf bought a house recently, and instead of listening to where we wanted to go to dinner to celebrate, she insisted on asking me a hundred questions that I had no idea how to answer! It really stressed me out!
Fortunately, even though we had a little fight, it forced me to talk to her via email and explain to her that I wanted to enjoy the moment and celebrate first...then the next day she can talk about details.
It was the first time in a while that I felt like she truly understood me. It's hard but try to stand your ground! There is plenty of time for you to discuss and plan the details.
I look forward to reading more of your planning progress!